Today I’ll be answering this question: What is the best self-care after abuse? Self-care is all about taking care of yourself, taking care of your emotional, mental, and physical well-being. So, taking generally they taking care of your well-being. When we talk about self-care of course, people will say, maybe you can buy candles, maybe you can light up incense in your house, maybe you can travel, maybe you can have some wine. People will share with you all kinds of things they do because when we talk about self-care, we talk about something which will make you feel good or which will give you a soothing feeling when you’re feeling down.

Actually, the best self-care after narcissistic abuse is not even looking for something else, it is in facing the pain, it is in seeking therapy which will help you process the pain deep inside. It’s not even in looking for the candles or looking for incense or an aroma diffuser, all those things, you’re just adding a lot of things in your journey. The best thing actually is to just let the emotions go.

The best self-care is release, not accumulation, maybe that’s the better way to put it. So, instead of looking for things, books, or traveling and posting photos on social media, the best thing to do is to release the emotions because even if you look for candles and all those things, you are still carrying a lot of things from your past, you’ve not really let go of your past.

So, you are adding another thing on top of the things you already have inside. Healing is more in the simplicity, it’s not looking for fancy or expensive crystals or even adding experiences, and all those things on top of something which needs to be let go

While some self-care practices are certainly beneficial, they should not take precedence over addressing the root issue: healing the pain. Rather than prioritizing activities like grooming or showcasing them on social media, the focus should be on seeking professional help to navigate through the emotional turmoil. Instead of investing heavily in expensive crystals or travelling, allocating resources towards therapy can yield more meaningful results in addressing and resolving underlying issues. Once progress is made in therapy, indulging in self-care activities can be incorporated into the healing process at a later stage.

Therefore, instead of prioritizing self-care initially, it’s crucial to invest in high-quality therapy. This therapeutic approach can effectively address the root of the problem, which lies in navigating and processing complex emotions. Whether it’s grappling with resentment towards oneself, an ex-partner, or the world at large, or grappling with feelings of cynicism and overall discontentment, therapy provides a safe space to confront and work through these deep-seated issues.

While it’s understandable to experience such intense emotions, simply engaging in activities like purchasing crystals, traveling, or posting photos won’t provide lasting solutions. While these pursuits may offer temporary distractions, true self-care involves actively engaging with and resolving emotional distress. Unfortunately, many people prioritize superficial self-care practices over exploring into the underlying issues that truly require attention.

In conclusion, true self-care transcends the accumulation of self-care items or indulging in external rituals. Instead, it involves the courageous act of facing discomfort and releasing pent-up emotions. Authentic self-care entails going inward, confronting inner turmoil, and addressing unresolved issues. By prioritizing inner healing, you pave the way for a more profound sense of well-being and fulfillment.

Once you’ve embarked on this journey of self-discovery and emotional release, you’ll find that engaging in self-care activities takes on a new significance. Whether it’s traveling, practicing meditation, or enjoying simple pleasures like lighting candles, these activities become sources of genuine joy and enrichment, rather than mere distractions or escapes. Embracing self-care from a place of inner peace and contentment allows you to enjoy life’s experiences more deeply and authentically.

Note from the Author

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