Today, I’ll be addressing the question of whether online forums are helpful for your healing journey. When I talk about online forums, I mean online communities, such as those focused on toxic relationships. Are they genuinely helpful?

Initially, yes, these forums can be very beneficial. They provide a sense of belonging when you connect with others who have been victims of abuse. Hearing their stories makes you realize that you’re not alone. The emotional, verbal, and hidden abuse you experienced in your relationship is validated by others who have been through similar situations.

This sense of belonging can be crucial in your healing journey, helping you relax and go easy on yourself. It reassures you that you’re not alone, even if the person sharing a similar experience is in a different country. Knowing that someone else is going through the same thing can be extremely helpful in your healing journey. However, I use the term “initially” because these forums can also become traps.

One issue with online forums is that sometimes it’s like the blind leading the blind. You may encounter individuals who have been stuck in their healing journey, and their stories might make you believe that healing is impossible. If someone shares that they’ve been struggling for 14 years without healing, it can create a pessimistic view for those starting their healing journey. Additionally, forums often attract people who haven’t healed. When you’ve truly healed, you’re likely busy enjoying life rather than spending extended periods in online forums.

These forums can turn toxic and keep you stuck. You may find people who endlessly complain about abusers, narcissists, and various issues. Joining this cycle of complaining may hinder your progress. Forums can become so toxic that they lead to pointless debates and contribute to an “us versus them” mentality.

Healing is not about victim versus abuser; it’s about you versus your pain.

While online forums can offer initial support and a sense of belonging, it’s essential to be watchful. If you’ve been in a forum for an extended period, it might be worth considering whether the toxic element in your life is not the abusive relationship but the online community itself. Taking a step back and focusing on your own healing rather than engaging in endless debates is crucial.

Remember, if you keep hanging out with people who are blind to healing, you may also become blind to your own progress. Take some time away from forums, go within yourself, deal with the pain, and then, if you wish, return to share your healing journey.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.