Today, I’ll be answering the question, “What does it mean to dream about your abusive ex after leaving that abusive relationship?” I’ve seen people say, “I dreamed about them, I dreamt that we were having this or that” Normally, these dreams focus on the positive aspects of the relationship rather than the negative ones. For instance, dreaming about them having changed, walking together holding hands by the beach, or building things together. However, waking up from these dreams can leave you feeling really bad and filled with regret. So, what does it mean when you dream about the good moments or your abusive partner having changed?

The thing about dreams is that most of the time, they are manifestations of our deep desires. Dreaming that your partner will change or that you are having this positive relationship is something you deeply desire. You wanted a lasting relationship with someone to build a life together. So, dreaming about them is normal because it means you’re thinking about it all the time. Even after leaving the relationship, you may still carry the hope that they would change. It’s a manifestation of desire, not a message from somewhere else or from the paranormal.

Don’t get stuck thinking it’s a message that you need to go back to the relationship. It’s just a dream, not reality. The only reality is that you were in that relationship, and despite your efforts, sacrifices, and changes, nothing changed until you left. Don’t focus too much on analyzing the dream or seeking guidance from tarot card readers or dream interpreters. These are distractions from dealing with the pain you’re feeling.

The pain won’t go away by going back or finding meaning in dreams. Deal with the pain first — address feelings of unworthiness, lack of boundaries, bitterness, vengefulness, and self-hatred. Other desires, like wanting a relationship or seeking dream interpretations, will only add to the emotional baggage. Don’t get lost in searching for meaning; the only truth is that you are in pain.

Once you deal with the pain, you’ll find yourself and have the clarity to make choices without fear or pain. Understand yourself, know how you deserve to be treated, and recognize your worth in a healthy relationship. Don’t get lost in seeking meanings; focus on healing. Once you heal, you can now look for someone to interpret your dreams if you want or just for fun but don’t really dwell or invest in it when you’ve not healed the pain you have deep inside.

Note from the Author

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