Today I’ll be answering this question: Does hobbies help in your healing journey? Hobbies, here, are like, let’s say, your hobbies are traveling the world, reading books, playing games, playing video games, talking to friends — all those things you used to enjoy before the relationship. So, do they really help? Now, let’s first explore this idea about help.

Hobbies actually give you this happy feeling. They provide you with a release. They can give you this happy feeling of “at least I’m enjoying this.” They can be pleasurable. So, when you do this pleasurable thing and the relationship itself was not pleasurable, you really feel that life is not that bad after all. So, in some sense, it may give you this good feeling, but it can also trap you.

Hobby as a Distraction

Yes, a hobby can be a distraction from you seeing yourself for who you are, from you seeing the loneliness, the emptiness, the unhealed pain, the trauma, and all those negative beliefs. So, when you really just push everything away and just start pursuing hobbies, especially after leaving an abusive relationship, it may offer you these good feelings, but that good feeling is still a temporary thing. It is still a band-aid to the actual thing, which is facing yourself, facing your low self-esteem, facing your low boundaries.

Because a hobby cannot help you develop boundaries, right? A hobby cannot help you with your self-esteem. A hobby cannot help you with dealing with your trauma or dealing with your unhealed wounds. You just have to process these things and pursuing hobbies is not a substitute to good therapy. So, a hobby will just be scratching the surface and giving you these good vibes, and it can be so distractive to the point that it ends up becoming another avoidance mechanism.

So, the relationship in itself was hurtful, but it was still a band-aid to your unhealed wounds. So, if you now pick up a hobby, you are still not changing as a person because the one who stayed in the relationship or the one who underwent the abuse is still the one who needs to heal. You need to really shed these negative beliefs you have about yourself, shed this emotional baggage so that you can really get in touch with who you are at the core of your being.

But now, if you look for something which is still exciting, you’ll end up chasing, chasing, chasing, running away, running away. But ultimately, you have to come back and deal with your stuff. So, a hobby is really good once you’ve dealt with your unhealed wounds. But initially, in your healing journey, it can still be distractive because you may end up being addicted to your hobbies, so then they become another clutch. So, instead of living a life where you are free, you are still confined and anchored to your past, and your hobbies are just manifestations or reactions to the real emotional wounds or the real traumatic memories which need processing.

Hobbies are good, but sometimes they may not really work. They may just keep you distracted or they may just help you avoid the actual reality, which is dealing with your subconscious and your hidden or the things beneath the surface.

Note from the Author

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