One of the most overlooked aspects of healing or working on your inner self is the profound calmness it brings. This calmness extends not only to your interactions with your ex but also to external events. Despite a dense political climate, turbulent weather, family issues, or financial difficulties, these external factors do not necessarily need to disturb your inner peace.

For example, in my country, we’ve experienced a dense political climate surrounding the Finance Bill 2024, which has been both oppressive and controversial, sparking nationwide protests. Recently, President William Ruto fired almost his entire cabinet and pledged to establish a broad-based government, responding to demands from protesters.

While this article isn’t focused on the financial bill itself, it offers a psychological perspective on how external chaos can trigger inner turmoil or exacerbate unresolved issues within oneself. Maintaining inner calmness enables clearer judgment when deciding whether to participate in protests or react with anger towards the president or government.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t feel anxiety or stress when something doesn’t go your way or when your expectations are not met; you feel it, but it doesn’t spiral you into feeling cynical or like the world is coming to an end. You look at the situation not from a chaotic standpoint but from a perspective of someone who has dealt with their own inner chaos.

The Impact of Unresolved Emotions on External Chaos

When we carry deep-seated feelings of guilt, shame, resentment, and other negative emotions from past experiences, external chaos often acts as triggers, amplifying what already exists on a deeper level. How we feel about the political climate, protests against the government, or the chaos stirred by societal issues is often not directed solely at those external events.

The Root of Powerlessness

Instead, it reflects our underlying sense of powerlessness over these situations. This feeling of powerlessness fuels resentment because it reinforces the belief that control lies outside of ourselves, primarily in circumstances beyond our influence. This sense of powerlessness is a belief deeply ingrained in our psyche due to past experiences.

We may have experienced some form of abuse or undermining in the environment we were brought up in, or authority figures in our lives like our fathers and mothers kept telling us what not to do or what to do. All of this made us feel powerless instead of instilling a sense of control over our lives.

The Internal Conflict

So, because we’ve never really felt like we had the power, most of our inner life is just chaotic. Your true voice wants you to do something, but your negative beliefs or false identities want you to do something you’ve become accustomed to. Your true voice may want you to leave your relationship, block your parents, change your career, or become a monk.

However, the voice from your beliefs, from the underlying structure you’ve been hardwired with, wants you to obey your parents, follow societal norms, get married, have grandchildren for your parents, and pursue all those other things perceived as good by society.

So now, your insides are like the political climate, with each having their own agenda.

That’s the chaos happening inside — where the true you, beyond these limitations, wants something else, but the limits want to be rather conservative and keep you where you’ve gotten used to.

A Holistic Approach to External Chaos

When you deal with your own chaos on a deep level, you will approach outer chaos from a holistic perspective or an orientation that aligns more with truth rather than just winning or having your own egoistic or bitter way.

You will see the chaos happening in the outer world as more of a systemic issue (the entire scope and nature of politics or family dynamics) and not just individual issues (change one politician or jump into another relationship and everything is fixed).

You will also be calmer and okay with aspects of your life that you cannot control, and you will not chase conspiracy theories just to prove chaos or just to prove to other, you will first take a deep breath and see the chaos you’re running away from.

So, when there’s less chaos internally, you will approach outer chaos more objectively and not merely as a reaction triggered on a deeper level. You will deal with issues more wisely and not reactively to how unfair the world seems. Your choices will not be reactions stemming from bitterness you’ve experienced in the past, but rather sober decisions unaffected by negative emotions.

I don’t understand politics; I only understand the politics within myself, and sometimes I don’t fully understand that either.

But what I do understand is that you need not obsess over your vote for a politician; instead, cast that vote for yourself, taking responsibility for the inner chaos.

Actually, when you go to a protest or feel bitter towards bad governance, don’t forget to come back to yourself and look at what the event is really stirring deep inside. This doesn’t mean that you just lock yourself in a room and ignore your surroundings. No, you do what it takes to keep yourself safe from that political climate. But when you’re calm on the inside, you will find better and more proactive solutions on the outside amidst the chaos.

The more you come back to yourself and see the whole thing holistically, the more you also understand why we love them one day and the next day want to crucify them — is it because of our bitterness or the hate we always carry deep within us towards other human beings, or is it because of their actions? Is there a switch that turns from love to hate real quickly, or was it always there waiting to be triggered? (Meditate on that.)

Note from the Author

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