Today I’ll be explaining to you why being single is one of the best opportunities in life. By being single, I mean you might have left any kind of relationship — whether it was abusive, a normal relationship, or just any kind of relationship. Sometimes, you may feel the pressure when comparing yourself to friends who share happy moments and vacations on social media, boasting about their dream partners. However, it’s essential to recognize that we never really know what happens behind the scenes of these seemingly perfect relationships.

Let’s shift our focus to what’s happening behind your scenes — being single. This presents a fantastic opportunity because all those things we tend to run away from, such as loneliness, fear of abandonment, fear of being alone, social anxiety, and seeking security in others, are now at the surface. Being single offers the greatest opportunity to work on these aspects that are often neglected in a relationship.

Instead of running to someone else for decisions, responsibility, or goal planning, you are now by yourself, single. This is the best time to work on things like negative beliefs, anger, resentment, loneliness, and deep emptiness — issues we often carry into relationships, seeking temporary relief. Being single is not a curse; it’s a blessing because it allows you to take action and address these issues directly.

Now, you can say, “Instead of carrying this baggage or a sense of irresponsibility into another relationship, let me take care of myself first. Let me be the partner I want to attract.” This is a profound shift in mindset. Work on your loneliness, become self-reliant (not arrogantly self-sufficient but understanding when to ask for help), and be content with yourself, knowing that you don’t need someone else to complete you.

While having a companion is nice, most of the time, we look for one because we feel we can’t do it by ourselves. Discover the contented, happy single within you — the one who is comfortable whether in a relationship or not. Being single is an opportunity to develop a deep, fulfilling relationship with yourself. Once you achieve that, you can share it with someone else if you choose to enter into a relationship.

Especially after leaving an abusive relationship, being single is the best time to work on everything — boundaries, unhealed wounds, low self-esteem, and self-worth. The beauty of this work is that it’s not as overwhelming as it may seem, and it becomes easier when you address the root causes rather than just the symptoms. You’ll realize that all along, you were complete, and you can be happy on your own without depending on others as much as you thought.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.