Our life experiences shape how we see the world today. We can look at those past experiences more like invisible chains, limiting what we choose to do in the present moment. When your past is holding you back, you feel or even believe you don’t have many choices in what you do with your life, from relationships to your career and almost every other aspect of life.

You can compare it to a donkey tethered to a pole; they can only graze within the confines of the rope. When they get used to the safety and comfort of those confines, even when they’re untied, they might still keep grazing within the same circle because that’s all they know.

That’s similar to our choices. If we’re used to betrayal and hurt, we will choose situations that are familiar to us. We will not have that pause to see that we have other choices in life or that we’re free to make different ones.

Making Peace with Your Past

Our past hurts weigh us down, make us exhausted, and prevent us from trying new things in life. Maybe your mom or your dad constantly told you that you would never be good enough, or perhaps something horrible happened that made you feel unsafe in certain situations. These experiences can make us think we don’t have any other choices in life.

But when you make peace with the past or release that emotional chain tying you to those events, you reach a point where you can draw inferences from the past. Instead of the past limiting you, it shows you other possibilities and gives you choices that were overshadowed by what you had learned and adopted as the ‘only way to do things.’

When we start to heal, we begin to see clearly and notice possibilities we may not have thought of before. Possibilities like cutting off friends, being okay with being seen as the bad person but knowing deep inside that you’re living your truth, leaving a relationship, or stepping away from a family business.

We start to experience more freedom than we could ever imagine. You realize you can do whatever you want. You can drink or choose not to drink. You can stay single or choose to get married. All these choices are within your grasp.

Unlike when you’re unhealed, where other choices or options are shrouded in fear or clouded by a negative perception of reality because of what happened in the past.

So, healing isn’t about forgetting; it’s about acknowledging that the past happened but realizing you now have a choice to enjoy the present and build a better future. You’re the one making choices now, not your family or your past relationships. It can be like, “Yeah, that happened, and it was tough. But now I get to choose what happens next.”

So, take a deep breath. Look around. What choices do you see today that you didn’t see yesterday? They’re there, waiting for you to grab them. Your healing journey is all about finding those choices, making them yours, and exploring the whole spectrum of reality.

Note from the Author

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