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Is It Okay to Feel Physically Disgusted When You Look at The Abuser And Liar?
Today, I want to tackle the question of why you often feel disgusted when you see your abuser or your abusive ex. It’s like an instinctual reaction when you lay eyes on them, and suddenly you’re hit with this intense feeling of disgust. You might see them on social media or in person, but you still have this disgusting feeling. It’s like your body’s saying “ugh!” and you might even feel like throwing up. But why does this happen?
The primary reason for feeling disgusted when you see your abuser is that it triggers feelings of self-disgust. You recall moments of pain and mistreatment with them. When you see them, it’s a reminder of the trust you placed in them, the intimate moments you shared, and how they betrayed that trust. Seeing them brings back memories of what they subjected you to, leading to self-blame, self-criticism, and feelings of regret for trusting them in the first place.
It’s more like stirring the pot of stuck emotions and sensations within you. Their mere presence serves as a catalyst, reigniting all the unresolved feelings and memories tied to the abuse. You’re suddenly confronted with a flood of questions and doubts about yourself, questioning why you didn’t leave sooner, why you ignored the warning signs, and why you allowed yourself to stay in such a harmful situation. These thoughts primarily blame you for staying, intensifying the feelings of self-disgust when you encounter them.
That’s also the silver lining in all of this because when you feel that disgust, it indicates that there’s still something within you that needs addressing. It’s a signal that there’s lingering self-hatred or negativity stemming from the past experiences with your ex. However, by confronting and working through these negative emotions, you can reach a point of indifference. You’ll still feel disgusted when you see them, but it will be more about their behaviors rather than internalizing it as a reflection of yourself.
It’s more like… you’re thinking, “Who behaves like that?” It’s a moral kind of disgust, directed at their actions rather than yourself. Initially, though, it might feel like self-disgust because you’re reflecting on yourself in relation to them, remembering all the things they subjected you to. This triggers unresolved wounds and painful experiences you haven’t fully processed yet.
But as you heal, seeing them might still evoke a bit of disgust, but it’s not about the unresolved issues within you anymore. Instead, it’s a moral disgust toward their behavior. It’s crucial to recognize these feelings when you encounter your abuser and view them as opportunities for growth. Releasing these emotions will make you feel lighter and you will grow and recognize tour strengths. So, while feeling physically disgusted or wanting to puke when you see them is normal, it’s a sign of triggering new emotions or reminding you of past experiences that still need processing.
Note from the Author
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