Today I’d like to address a question that someone asked. Will a narcissist believe or even consider it when you tell them what they are? The question implies that suppose you start noticing patterns in your behavior and, after a brief Google search or asking around, you realize that perhaps from your own observation, you’re dealing with a narcissist.

Now, you want to call them out or confront them, and you’re wondering if they would even consider it or believe it. By thinking about it, you’re considering whether they would self-reflect or change their behaviors. Something we need to understand is that it doesn’t necessarily have to be related to narcissists, but rather about how we perceive ourselves. We are always resistant to change because our current state or perception is our comfort zone.

So, when something feels comfortable to the mind, no matter if it’s harmful, it becomes predictable, and predictability offers a safe route through life. When you attempt to confront or tell them, it’s not that they’ll believe you; they’ll likely react defensively, with denial, or even aggression. They might resort to manipulative techniques or go silent. Most behaviors in such situations are defensive, and this defensive mode isn’t exclusive to narcissists; it applies to all of us.

If someone questions us or points out a truth in our reality, there’s a tendency to resist or react defensively. This resistance stems from deeply rooted perceptions or ego protection. Victims of abuse often desire change in the abuser but fail to realize they, too, are stuck in the situation. They focus on the abuser changing rather than questioning their own lack of boundaries or why they seek control over someone who has been consistent in their behavior.

The mind seeks the easiest path, reinforcing the current state. However, focusing on oneself, questioning why they tolerate abuse, is the path to freedom and healing. Reflecting on why one tolerates abuse rather than expecting the abuser to change is crucial. While it would be convenient if the abuser reflected and changed, it’s not something one can control. Usually, people don’t spend time reflecting; they seek an easy way out. Recognizing that one is in an abusive relationship and questioning why they allow others to take advantage is essential. It’s not about the narcissist; it’s about focusing on oneself, where freedom and healing lie.

Note from the Author

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