Today, I’ll be addressing the question of why you may be afraid of expressing yourself after leaving an abusive relationship. Expressing yourself, whether at your workplace, with family, or to anyone, including professionals like lawyers or doctors, might bring up fears and concerns. Why is it that you feel so afraid?

The main reason for this fear is rooted in your experience during the abusive relationship. In that toxic dynamic, expressing yourself was often met with dismissive responses such as being told you’re overreacting, overthinking, or being gaslighted into believing your voice didn’t matter. Being expressive sometimes needs encouragement, similar to how a child learns to talk. If a child is constantly told to stop talking, they might eventually stop speaking up. Similarly, in an abusive relationship, when you express yourself and face negative reactions, it shapes your belief that expressing yourself is problematic, causing harm to others, or that you are unworthy of doing so.

Your voice was silenced in that abusive relationship, leading you to internalize the idea that expressing yourself is a problem. Even after leaving the relationship, these negative beliefs about your ability to express yourself persist. The impact extends beyond relationships to other aspects of life, like work, spirituality, or personal growth. If you can’t express yourself freely, you might find it challenging to assert your needs in the workplace, ask for a raise, or navigate other opportunities due to the fear of consequences.

To break free from this cycle, it’s crucial to work on these negative beliefs you picked up from the abusive relationship. Ignoring them can result in stagnation or allow others to take advantage of you. People might not necessarily be manipulative or abusive, but they can inadvertently take advantage of your silence, whether it’s constantly borrowing money without repayment or other situations where your voice needs to be heard.

Healing becomes a transformative process where you reclaim your ability to express yourself in all areas of life. It’s not just about relationships; it’s about regaining your voice in every aspect of your life. Acknowledging and dealing with these negative beliefs is essential for personal growth and ensuring that past experiences don’t continue to influence your present and future. Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.