Today I’ll be addressing the question of what to do when you find yourself in a relationship where you have to ask for permission to do everything. For instance, you might need permission from your partner to meet your friends, pursue personal interests, go out, or even communicate with your family. How do you recognize when these dynamics become manipulative?

When you’re in a situation where you constantly have to seek permission for even minor activities that previously didn’t require approval, such as going shopping or talking to friends and family, it’s likely that you are being controlled or manipulated. Asking for permission implies a loss of freedom, and this control may escalate to the point where you avoid doing things altogether out of fear of denial or anger from your partner.

Another indicator of manipulative behavior is when your partner becomes angry if you don’t ask for permission. For example, meeting friends or family without prior approval might trigger an unwarranted emotional reaction. This kind of response is a red flag that should not be ignored.

It’s crucial to be vigilant and recognize these signs because a healthy partner should support your personal growth rather than isolate you. If your partner consistently pushes you away from your support network or from the things you enjoy doing, it diminishes your ability to voice concerns in the relationship. Losing your voice in the relationship means you may not confront behaviors you dislike, which opens doors for further manipulation and abuse in the relationship.

In a healthy relationship, your voice should be encouraged and supported, not stifled. Constantly asking for permission erodes your autonomy and independence, paving the way for increased manipulation and potential abuse. If you’re accustomed to seeking permission for everything, it means you’re losing your ability to make decisions independently.

Remember, a relationship should be a space for communication, not a place where you need permission for every action. Communication involves mutual support, while seeking permission represents control. Keep your voice and autonomy intact in the relationship, as losing them may expose you to further manipulation and abuse.

Note from the Author

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