Today, I’ll be addressing the question of how to make a toxic relationship work. This is a very interesting question. When we talk about a toxic relationship, we mean a situation where either you are being mistreated or your partner is mistreating you, engaging in name-calling and other behaviors that are not acceptable in a healthy relationship. Yet, you find yourself wanting to salvage the relationship. So, what do you do?

The rule of the thumb is to, of course, walk away from a toxic relationship but because that doesn’t always land softly especially when you’re addicted to them and you can’t see a life beyond that relationship. The relationship may not also be that toxic or you’re not even sure if it’s toxic or not but you’re just feeling a certain kind of way. So, the logical thing to do to of course make the relationship work is through changed behavior, right?

Say, if I am doing something hurtful to you, sometimes I may be doing it unknowingly. Perhaps, I’ve been raised in an environment where certain actions, like shouting at my partner, are perceived as signs of love or control. Due to a lack of awareness, you might end up accepting such behavior. In such a scenario, two individuals are navigating through the complexities of a toxic relationship, and they are both ‘lost’ and conditioned.

When you really don’t know if a relationship is toxic or not, the first step should be to understand how you should be treated by others. Recognizing your basic rights, needs, and understanding how others are supposed to treat you is essential. If you don’t have clarity on these aspects, you might unknowingly accept unacceptable behavior, leading to a toxic relationship. Stepping outside the confines of societal norms and questioning these beliefs is important. Challenge the common notions imposed on you, whether it’s about gender roles or other expectations.

Emotional abuse, which is not always visible, can be just as damaging. Prioritize stepping out of the mental box you’ve confined yourself in. Look beyond the conditioning and observe people living freely and happily. Question why you let others define who you are and challenge these beliefs.

Addressing a toxic relationship begins with acknowledging that something is toxic. Confront your partner about the harmful behavior, and in some cases, they may not be aware or may be willing to change. However, if the other person is unwilling to change or remains confined in their perspective, there comes a point where you need to take initiative.

Saving a toxic relationship requires taking the initiative to save yourself from the harm. If your partner refuses to change and continues to hurt you, the best course of action may be to leave the relationship. Saving a toxic relationship is ultimately about saving yourself. Take the initiative, recognize what is harmful to you, and understand that you deserve a life free from harm.

You were not brought into this world to be harmed by others. Focus on finding your peace and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself first. By doing so, you pave the way for healthier relationships in the future. It’s not just about keeping the relationship; it’s about keeping harm away from yourself. I understand the desire to salvage the relationship, but prioritizing your well-being is crucial.

Note from the Author

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